This is surely the most important Lesson that I have ever learned: Marry Well! Know what you want and what you need. No other choice could have a bigger impact on your life.
Me? I wanted and needed (according to my Grandma Sara, who remembered such things) “Smart, funny and kind” in, as I remember it, no particular order – all being equally important. And look! I got it all!
Score!
Jane's Lessons Learned 
Smart, funny and kind – you sure got it, and a lot more good things you needed too.
So very, very true!! My husband is smart, funny and kind, as well, and we will celebrate our 27th anniversary this year! I volunteer at the high school selling ice cream for the Robotics team – one girl came up with her boyfriend and she was obviously paying for an ice cream for them share. She wanted one flavor, he wanted another. I offered to mix the flavors, but he didn’t want that, he wanted HIS flavor. I got sick of listening to his cajoling, and I finally pulled $2 from my pocket and told her “I’m buying you the flavor you want, but I’m giving you some free advice … never let a man tell you what to do.” Everyone in line got a laugh out of this, but I hope she gets the message – the smart, funny, kind ones will ASK you (and accept a no as a no) but they will never make demands and manipulate you.